Nikkole Cherie

How I stay fit!

Okay I don’t really “work out” BUT there are things I do throughout the day/week to help keep my body in shape!

1. Take the stairs - If it’s less than 10 flights of stairs, I take the stairs. It sounds like a pain in the butt(which it literally is) but it helps your legs and your booty stay nice and firm :)

2. Don’t take the closest parking spot - When I go to school I park FAR from where I have class at or when I go to the mall I park in the back. It burns just a few extra cals but it definitely helps!

3. Dance Around! - During the day I turn on music while I do whatever and just dance around. Have you ever seen the commercials for all the dancing workouts? Well trust me it works! Sometimes I’ll even feel sore the next day from all the dancing I did haha!

4. Don’t eat fast food! - Fast food is LOADED with cals and fats and basically ANYTHING unhealthy for you! I RARELY eat fast food and if I do I make sure I choose something on the healthier side! If you work and HAVE to buy it, make sure you make a plan to start packing a nice healthy lunch, like I do!

5. DONT BUY UNHEALTHY FOOD - If you have  bad foods in your house, you will be tempted to eat them & you WILL eat them, I promise. You might say, well I have kids in the house and my husband blah blah! NO! First of all those bad diet habits you have started when you were a kid! If you switch to buying healthy foods and snacks instead of unhealthy ones it could really impact your childs life for the better. You don’t want them to end up with a diet like yours do you? If you don’t buy the bad food to put it in the house, then you just won’t eat it!

6. Snacks - Snacks are good for you because they keep your metabolism going. A snack should be like an apple, celerey & peanutbutter, or some string cheese. Don’t eat unhealthy snacks!

7. DO NOT DRINK POP - I know it gets your through your day or you’re just plain ol addicted but I promise you this is why that bulge isn’t going away! If you stop drinking pop and don’t even do anything else, you will drop a few pounds in just one month. If you subsistute your morning pop for an apple, it will have the SAME effect!

8. Small Proportions - I use to have a REALLY bad habit of putting more on my plate than I should & then feeling obligated to eat it all! Instead, put LESS on your plate that you think would make you full. Eat that plate and in half an hour, if you still feel hungry, have a small snack!

9. Drink LOTS of water - During the day drink water, tea, and juice. Sometimes when you think you’re hungry, you’re really just thirsty! If you drink a bottle of water you might notice that “hunger” feeling go away!

10. Go for walks - I like to put in my headphones and take a walk around the block. Not only is it an AMAZING stress reliever, it does wonders for your body. Burns cals and tones you up! Some people get bored of going for walks around their neighborhood so I suggest switching it up! Sometimes I’ll go to the park to walk or even take Lyle with me!

11. Pay attention! - Pay attention to what you eat during the day. I use to just eat and eat and not even realize how much I’d eaten until the end of the day and be like DAMN! Instead, count those cals and even plan out how you’re going to eat during the day so you don’t go over the limit. I, myself, try to stick around 1250 cals a day.

12. Join in - Play with your kids! Go run around the yard with them, pull them in their wagon, jump on the trampoline, or go swimming together. They’re all fun things to do without even noticing that you’re getting exercise.

13. Chores - Some chores require a little labor and help out with burning a few extra cals. Such as mowing the lawn or taking out the garbage!

Alright there are 13 little things I do that help me keep my body looking the way it does! They’re pretty basic and maybe a little silly but they really do help :)

I’ll add more if anyone has suggestions or I think of more things I do!

Update

Most people who follow up on my life already know this, but Josh is out of jail. At first, I didn’t even really want him to be around Lyle. He was already acting a fool as soon as he got out. Even though he messed up, I gave him another chance to be a dad. We took Lyle to a park and they played all day long. It was the first time I truly saw him bond with Lyle. It was a good feeling but to be honest I was a little jealous when Lyle wanted to play with Josh more than he did with me. We’ve continued to not worry about a relationship & just focus on being friends and making a nice environment for Lyle. No, Josh isn’t a drug addict anymore. BUT, yes,  he is a RECOVERING DRUG ADDICT. Do I trust Josh with my child alone? No. But if he is in the company of his parents, of course I will trust Josh to watch Lyle. It’s going to be tough but hopefully he can finally get his life together and be the dad he needs to be. He doesn’t need negative people in his life saying “ONLY 3 months sober.” He needs positive people who say “Dang, 3 months!? that’s great, hopefully many more to come.” I’m proud of Josh so far. Lyle seems to really admire him. Let’s pray he continues to step up & STAY SOBER!!

little-yellownotebook asked: you said josh went to detroit one night? i didnt know you were from michigan, well i am too. and although i dont have a child yet, ive been going thru the same thing with my boyfriend/ex boyfriend for a long time. if you want to talk about it or anything EVER, im always up for a conversation. as for right now, just be sure to stay true to you and make sure that baby has the best life you yourself could possibly give. stay beautiful love <3 -kendra

thank you :) maybe we will meet one day

What you don’t know

Im writing this not because I want everyone to know my business, but because I’m looking for help, advice, & support. Josh being a drug addict is nothing new to those who think it is. I’m going to have to backtrack a little bit. Josh was in juvy right after I first met him. Why? He had marijuana on him at school & also got in trouble for being on private property. When we started “talking” he has just got out. We started dating a few months later. When we were first dating, he was a homebody. He always sat at home and read or played wii or whatever. He also loved to cook. He got his GED about a year into our relationship and started college a few months later. A few months after he started college, I found out I was pregnant. Which was April of 09. Up until this point josh had been a pretty normal person. Just sat at home, most of the time with me. When I wouldn’t abort the baby, josh changed dramatically. He broke up with me, stopped going to school, and got kicked out of his house. I was dumbfounded by it all. He was literally living in a crack house. I went there once and it was absolutely disgusting. No electricity, holes in the wall, and drugs anywhere. I couldn’t believe the person I loved was like this. I tried so hard to save him but I didn’t know what to do. I was only 15. MTV doesn’t show a lot that happened. They didn’t show me writing a note that said “ultrasound to find out sex of your child June 16 at 12.” and taping it on the door of the crack house. It didn’t show all of the doctors appointments he promised me he’d make it to but never showed. They didn’t show te numerous times we filmed him going to court or when he went to jail or when he went to rehab. But they filmed it all. All of this plays a role as to why he was so crazy. He’s a drug addict. At the end of the episode where we break up at a restraunt, he got special permission to leave rehab to film that scene. The same “rehab” where he first smoked crack. Then when it shows me crying saying I didn’t want him to leave, I’m crying because he was going to jail because of him failing drug tests in rehab. Once he got out of jail for that in may of 2010, we didn’t get back together. I was to focused on school and Lyle to pay any attention to josh, although he’d call every now and then. In August, I knew he had warrants and when I seen him with his 15 yr old girlfriend, I called the police and had him arrested. When he got out of Jail for that in dec, I agreed to giving out relationship one last shot. Ultimately I moved in with him and his family because me and my mom couldn’t get along. Josh went out with friends to Detroit one night and didn’t come back for days. When he finally came home I just knew something wasn’t right. This continued for the next few weeks. One night he came in real late and didn’t know I was still up. I heard him fiddle with the heat vent for a few minutes. Then he went to bed. When he was taking a shower the next morning I looked in the vent and found two needles. I was beyond shocked. I immediately disposed of them so he couldn’t find them. I didn’t say a word. I was sitting on the couch later in the day and I heard him go into the room. He came out looking pretty upset and asked me if Lyle had been near the vent. I went into his room with him and confronted him about it. He told me and said he was sorry but nothing could stop him now. He said he wanted help but not to say anything to anyone. So I didn’t. Finally on new years eve he called me and asked me to steal his dads gun or else he’d shoot up bleach. I decided it was time to tell his mom. She started crying and me and his sister hurriedly drove to where he was. We found him safe and sound and he ended up coming home with us. About 30 mins after coming home he began to have crazy withdrawals. I didn’t know what to do. He was puking and shaking and freaking out. We called an ambulance and the police ended up showing up too since he had warrants we didn’t know about. He served his time in jail and when he got out he went right back at it. I was done. I wasn’t letting myself live this life anymore. I decided to call my mom and come home and of course she said yes. I had all my stuff packed and lyle in the car and josh told me he was going to kill himself. I laughed and said shut up. He held his hand out and in it was a fistfull of sleeping pills. He threw them all in his mouth and swallowed. I screamed for his mom to take him to the hospital. I went home after that. I guess he had his stomach pumped and had to stay for 3 days because he was on suicide watch. I never wanted to be with him again. I still don’t. He went to jail may 2011 and remained there until a month ago, they then transferred him to the same rehab where he first did crack and he ran away 2 weeks later. A week after he ran he was caught and his arms were full of bruises and holes. He’s now in jail till may, again. Ive managed to be on two cheer leading teams, raise my son, get all a’s in school, and deal with this. Not to mention I’m barely 18 and a freshman in college. I’m looking for answers and help because we all feel so hopeless. Thank you. Q